Robert Strain surprised Daniel Bering in March 2019 by proposing in front of a fireplace during a weekend escape to Point Reyes, Calif.
“We had such a great time,” said Mr. Strain. “But since it was my proposal, I think Dan felt like we were no longer on even-footing, like I suddenly had an edge in our relationship, and he had no say.”
Two weeks later, Mr. Bering had his say, proposing at Indian Springs, a hotel in Calistoga, Calif., and putting forth a counterproposal of sorts that put him back on equal footing with Mr. Strain.
“I was humbled and charmed when Rob proposed to me, but I felt that I had to do something to show how I equally respected and adored him,” said Mr. Bering, who sneakily slipped the ring box beneath Mr. Strain’s pillow before they turned in for the evening, only to have to awkwardly pull it out once he was certain that Mr. Strain could not feel it.
“Early in our relationship, we talked a lot about the proposal process,” Mr. Strain said. “We discussed how we could make it more of a shared, even-handed-event, so while I didn’t expect Dan’s proposal, I certainly understood where it was coming from.”
They were married April 4, 2020.
Article source: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/21/style/how-they-proposed.html